“I don’t know how I got here but I refuse to stay.
I betrayed myself when I let others have their way
But I am holding on, my finger on the pulse.
The sound of my heart pounding tells me there’s still hope.
Have you ever felt that you didn’t get even a smidgen of what you wanted because you let others have their way? Did you never get a word in edge wise because you let others have every word?
You’re not alone–many others, myself included, have betrayed ourselves by doing the same thing. We betray ourselves because our inputs, thoughts, actions, etc. are never considered because it’s never told or done. Maybe it’s because we want to integrate into society or want to be considered normal.
But are those reasons only hindering us from leaving our current place and going to a better place?
Sometimes we don’t know or realize how we got here, but we know we don’t want to stay. This isn’t us and we’ve betrayed ourselves to let others have their way. We’re holding on, but we need to change. As Icon for Hire sang later in the same song:
“I’ve survived on life support,
But I’m stronger than I give myself credit for.
These conditions only cure
When we prepare ourselves for war.”
We we’ve survived on life support and we’re tired of it. It needs to change because we’re stronger than we credit ourselves for. Sometimes the only way to get out of it is to fight and prepare ourselves for war. There’s still hope because we’re still alive. Our hearts are still pounding and we still have a pulse.
I might not know how I got here, but I refuse to stay here. I refuse to betray myself more. Do you want to stop betraying yourself as well? Are you going to stay where you are or are you going to make a move? We’re still alive, which means that…
There’s Still Hope
There’s still hope because there’s a way out of being stuck in the place we’re in. We’ve got the chance to stop being betrayed, to put up a fight instead of slowly loosing it, to give ourselves the right amount of credit for the strength we have, and to stop surviving on life support and strive on our own. We’ve got the chance to change from where we are to where we want to be.
But how are we supposed to move from our current place to the place where we want to be?
Easy: be different.
Fashion designer Coco Chanel stated that “In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.” Now, this is easier than it sounds. If you want to be different, you just need to be yourself. You need to be who God created you to be. God created everybody different from everybody else. Each of us have different idiosyncrasies than everyone else because we were created differently.
Democratic political strategist Donna Brazile put it best when she said that “I was motivated to be different in part because I was different.” We are different from everyone else, so why not aim for being different from everyone else? If you don’t want to be stuck where you are any longer, then why wait and start now? Why not let our voices be heard? Why not be different and…
Put Up A Fight
We not only need to change to be different, but we also need to put up a fight if we are going to show that we’re different because people won’t like it. People don’t like it when we put up a fight because they don’t want any change. People don’t like change because they want something they can rely on to be the same day in and day out. We like it when we can rely on others to be the same. We like a normal routine. But the normal routine gets boring, ordinary, and commonplace.
But if we are always trying to have a normal routine, we’re trying to be normal. Dr. Maya Angelou, novelist and civil rights activist, once said that “If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you could be.” None of us don’t know how amazing you could be by staying where we are. We need to be different in order to break away form our normal routine and to find out how amazing we could. We can make an impact by being different and by fighting for it.
People don’t like it when we put up a fight, but we should put up a fight to be different. The condition we’re in only can be cured if we prepare for war. We need to break out of the normality by being different. As Cecil Beaton, a famous photographer, put it: “Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.”
There’s hope for us if we fight–if we dared ourselves to be different from the ordinary and refused to stay where we are now. We should be off life support because we can thrive when we aren’t on it. We shouldn’t be slaves of the ordinary when we can be different and daring. Why shouldn’t we fight to be different–to be us–if we want to get away from where we are now?
Why shouldn’t we be different? What’s to lose?